Well, it seems that I always run into the same roadblocks in dating relationships.
I AM JUST NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THE PASTOR THING.
I get this same message in lots of different ways. Sometimes it is direct. I had one conversation like this. Here is a conversation I had recently.
"I am just not sure I could ever date a pastor. I just dont think being a pastor is right. The Bible seems to say...(on and on for about five minutes)."
"It sounds like it would be easier for you if I was a male prostitute," I said laughing
"Well, in many ways it would," she returned.
Or then there is the let me summarize my beliefs about God so you know I am not compatable with you. The just so you know I am a Christian but....conversation.
When I got into ministry, I never anticipated. I thought, naively, it would be the opposite. That there would be single women I would meet in church circles that would not only be open but be excited about finding a decent Christian guy...even if I am not the prettiest guy on the block. But after 7 years in full time pastoral ministry I have to tell you, nothing could be further from the truth.
Nothing scares women inside and outside of the church more than dating or marrying a pastor.
Now, there are those women who think it a challenge to date a minister type and pull him away from the pastorate. Somehow, they think there feminine wiles are just about equal competition for the Almighty and they try to win me over to their side. Some of these comptetitions have been close, but in the end the ministry and the Lord won out.
So, if you have advice for me besides EHARMONY, I am open to listen.