Saturday, May 28, 2005

Giant Leaps of Logic

I have had an absolutely awful week, other than a few new exciting things happening in blogland.

My friend Jennifer says that I make "Giant Leaps of Logic" when I get upset about something, seeing everything as catastrophic. When, in fact, many of the things that I get upset about are isolated incidents.

For instance.....

Not enough kids show up at youth group for the satisfaction of the powers that be in the church SO I am a failure and not a good youth pastor anymore.

I dont have a romantic relationship that seems to be moving anywhere quickly, SO I must be a difficult person to get along with and will probably never get married.

People are not treating me with the kind of respect I want SO I must have the doormat sign on top of my head.

I am mistreated by a few people at church SO this church hates me and doesnt want me here.

The five year old at KMART came up to me and told me I am ugly so that is the way everyone must see me.

I am getting paid less than most of my friends, SO I am going to be broke for the rest of my life and there is nothing I can do about it.

I think she is right sometimes, especially my ability to make a bad week into a catastrophic statement about who I am. But sometimes my ability to see a mountain from a molehill has its benefits. My friend Jennifer has also told me that I have had insights about situations and people that she might not have had. Sometimes, it is the ability to trust your gut instinct and generalize from a particular situation that saves you! But sometimes it also gets you in trouble.

So how do you know when to trust your intuition and your overly dramatic sense, and when is it saboataging you? And for those of you that know me better, do I only make these giant leaps of logic about negative things or positive ones too.


.: raven :. said...

you just named several reasons why i no longer attend church .... i'm sure you're a great youth pastor .... would Jesus call you a failure? i think not.

how could church people mistreat another church person?

i don't want to get into a religious discussion, but again, this is WHY i gave up going to church.

the kid at Walmart is rude and with no manners. he doesn't know any better but his parents will be in for a very rude awakening when he's 15 and he's telling them to f**k off and go to hell.

i think you need to seek out moving to another church ...

Kim Traynor said...

My dad has told me over and over that I am perfect and incapable of doing anything wrong-"ever." Stangely, some part of me believes this, so I rarely get too down on myself, even in the bleakest situations.

But I do have an annoying impulse to place every piece of information that crosses my radar into a larger picture as quickly as possible. I think it's because Big Pictures make sense, details are meaningless mites of dust.

It's risky to do this with information you get off the news, or from Graham Hancock books, or when trying to form an opinion about a church or political can be absolutely devestating when you do this with actual human beings.

Human beings are crazy. I never met one, in church or out, that didn't have a streak of crazy in 'em. You can't hold a human to the same standard you would hold a math equation. 2+2=4 in the realm of logic; 2+2=p^*5.

So just remember, your Father in heaven is the only one who can judge you and, thanks to what Jesus did, he sees the completed, perfected you. Hey, I guess my Dad is kinda like God that way!

I guess I forgot to answer the question - what I do with my intuitions about people is this; I believe the intuition if it is good, and if it is bad I decide to give the person the benefit of the doubt until they do something to absolutley eliminate all doubt.

I've heard Bill say many times that when you look at people you should see them for all their potential, and not for their failings, because that is how God sees us, and how can we expect to love as God loves if we don't see as God sees.

And finally, "giant leaps of logic about negative things" is never a good idea, not even in order to protect ourselves. Self preservation wasn't real high on Jesus' list of priorities and it shouldn't be on ours either.

Okay, that's enough rambling from me for now! Talk to ya later.

Oricon Ailin said...

*HUGS* Clint, you and I have so much in common. I do the same thing as you. (and I know you've read these same type of things in my blog)

You have an incredible ability to see things in ways that many of us never could. You may have negative thoughts about things, but heck, who doesn't?? Trust me, you also make giant leaps of logic when it comes to positive things as well. I can't count the number of times in just the short amount of time you and I have "known" each other, that you have helped me out. If it weren't for your logic, compassion, advise, and kindness, I'm sure I would have many more negative days. *hugs*

Hang in there, and pray. Ask God what He thinks is right for you. Let Him hear your concerns and ask him for help. Just tell him like this...

"Dear God, sometimes I'm lost, and I can't find my way. I try very hard, but sometimes I just don't know what to do. I mess up a lot, and I know that I can't always take care of things on my own. I need you, and I want to ask for your help. God, please help me know what your plan is for me, help me to see where you want me to go and what you want me to do. I give it all up to you. I love you and I trust you. Amen."

That very prayer, I pray every night. It's amazing what things happen after that. Keep the faith!!

Here is something I heard today that I just loved...

Do not cry over anything that in return cannot cry for you.