What happens when you don't have a social life

Last night I got sucked into a movie on television.

The name of the movie was **blushes**, Crossing Delancy.

It was a chick flick. Set in a Jewish neighborhood in New York.

Actually the movie was interesting because it got me thinking about something. See, the whole story was about this woman who gets set up with this guy and she sees that he is a good guy but thinks that she could do better.

There is something that is a turn off about being with a man that owns and runs a pickle shop, and that was matched to her by a matchmaker.

More and more the woman in the story sees what a good man he is, but he is not her ideal. She thinks she can do better. More exciting. More handsome. Yet she still finds him intriguing.

The other thing that is more subtle and behind the scenes is how his goodness reflects his Jewish faith. He takes in people who are without a home. He cares for the old men in his neighborhood. He honors his parents. He deals honestly in his business.

I guess I liked it cause it dealt with chick flick type of issues in a different way. A way that was modern and full of people with faults, but at the same time it was a morality tale of sorts. And it was a romance movie that seemed to say that there was more to love and marriage that raging hormones and instant attraction. It spoke a lot more to the importance of integrity and fidelity and goodness.

And it got me to thinking....

I think a lot of times in a lot of things in life we think life is about bigger and better. If we are single we think that...this person might be good and nice...but I could find someone more exciting. And so we let a lot of good and nice people move on by because they dont seem to be a "catch" or our ideal, and then we find out later that we should have gotten to know that person a little bit better.

Sometimes the same thing can happen with friendships. And we take friends for granted.

Sometimes it happens with work and with lots of things.

And sometimes this happens in the way we understand the faith aspect of our life to. We think it is alright, but plain and ordinary. So we do not give it much value. Only to discover later how beautiful and passionate and meaningful it becomes when we invest ourselves in it.

Don't get me wrong....I dont think we should settle in life. But sometimes golden jewels come in tattered containers. And lifeless manequins are always well dressed.